Taking Off the Mask When Things Aren’t ‘OK’
How removing the mask can soothe your soul In everyday conversation, you’ll often be asked, “How are things?” The common response is “Fine” or “OK,” a quick, safe answer that in many instances just isn’t true. The masks we wear for colleagues, associates and even friends and family can become hard to remove, but the sooner we divulge what’s happening in our lives, the sooner the healing process can begin. Admitting that things are not going well validates our feelings and empowers us. “Declaring and being transparent in that is a protest of one,” explains Lanada Williams, a Washington, D.C.-based psychotherapist and radio host. “It’s something that you can do every day to announce you’re humanly present, and that you’re a spiritual being and connecting yourself to your higher power.” Why is it so difficult to remove our masks? By adulthood, we’ve been conditioned to hide our truths, so the stakes are presumably higher if we open up. “When we say what really is the matter,...